Introverted Kim doesn’t like going alone, most of her friends live an hour away. She used to go to the gym with her former roommate. Her roommate was a good cook, and she often cooked healthy meals for the two of her. Her current roommate is rarely home, so Kim’s routine settles into long workdays and then spends the night online. We rely on ready-made food. I recognize that she is an adult and that her mom’s advice about body shape may seem shallow and non-judgmental. , I have not pursued it because I tend to procrastinate and find a provider difficult. Please. Should I say something or avoid it?
Concerned mother: you love your daughter, right?
Of course it is! That question was (hopefully) rhetorical. But I think it’s important to ask yourself once in a while when you think about your loved ones. The question can act as an anchor because loving someone doesn’t always equate to loving behavior – it’s what you need right now.
Your daughter experienced a period of unusual stress and her body responded to it. The usual How. But instead of her mental health and emotional well-being being your primary concern about her, you seem to be primarily concerned with aesthetics. and jumped on her diet and exercise. The implicit message is clear. “Your laziness is making you ugly.” Maybe that’s not what you’re saying. But I wouldn’t be surprised if that’s what she’s hearing.
Of course, you should worry about whether your daughter is picking up habits you think are unhealthy, but let’s be honest. Do you care about her introversion too? Are you concerned about her actual health or how effectively she models the appearance of health? , which usually means “is she skinny?”)
I think I should say something, but it’s like, ‘Do you have any plans for next weekend? I thought it would be cool to go, I’ll get a ticket.”
A rally of monster trucks might not be her jam. Recycle She can shop, cow chips, or whatever. What I mean is that your child has expressed that she is experiencing stress severe enough to affect her body, and is now making “shallow and judgmental” comments about her appearance. It’s not the time to Instead, help her relieve stress and experience her joy. Maybe this is a transitional period for you as a parent to her and in her life you will be more of an ear than a voice for her.Yes, seeing her doctor is very important to her. Hope it helps. But there’s a big difference between urging her to do so because she doesn’t fit in her old jeans and suggesting it while she’s confiding in you about her stress.
