He hates running, so he suggested going to the gym, walking, cycling, hiking, softball, and other things with him. He’s not working at all. When I point out that he doesn’t really know how “healthy” he is because he doesn’t get a physical body, he says he has no reason to go to the doctor unless he is ill. I’m stuck because I don’t want to fight or be persistent about this, but I’m worried that he won’t be with me when we get older. what can I do?
Maybe stop and except “wow” with me, “he says workouts are for fat people who need to lose weight.”
The part about weight loss during your pregnancy is your own guess, so I’ll leave it alone, but I’m skeptical.
I say “nothing” because you made your claim and he “flatted out” his worldview more than you did. Science, embarrassment, right? He avoids doctors and preventive medicine, ridicules the movement, and insults those who do it. It’s not just about running and broccoli. This is a visible hint of a well-established values system.
And I sympathize with your desire to have his dating when you get older, but you set your tastes, set your example, invite him to you, And you can only continue.
Then it’s a junk shoot.
And even if he embraced fitness, it would be. Like you, he can still get sick or injured.
Moreover, if your reaction to his ruthlessness is to stop forcing the problem-fitness or something else-and I hope you will be happier. At the very least, it’s much less stressful than if you’re worried about how to change his mind and keep planning. This is the perfect recipe for eternal frustration.
So be prepared as much as you can and be as flexible as possible about the results you will get. In terms of preparation, you are clearly yourself, but the rest are still true.
Re: Stack: Wow, Carolyn, I’m amazed at your answer. A few years ago, my husband was shocked to find on a blood test that he had heart problems that could change with diet and exercise. He blew it away. I was furious and told him that it was our marriage that did what it took to stay for me and our children, and if he didn’t, I would do him I couldn’t keep marrying. He heard me.
Anonymous: This is certainly an option for someone who is willing to leave their partner to stay sedentary. But your husband also seemed to accept the persuasion. There is a difference between a “kind of” test that blows away lab results and a rejection of the entire test concept.
